Disclaimer: The following post is geared toward those who were present during the dating discussion on Sunday, April 18.
Last night we discussed what a gospel-centered dating relationship looks like. Several people have asked me to post my 29 points… Yes, I had 29 points. Here are the first 12. I’ll post the rest throughout the week.
1. Jesus is your first relationship. If you do not get this point the rest will be applied in vain. This means knowing that your life was bought by his blood and your life is hidden in him. Because of this we seek what is of God. (Col 3:1-4)
2. Date under the provision of a Christian family. If you 1) do not have a Christian family, 2) have parents with a poor marriage (divorce, abuse, no communication, etc.), or 3) have parents that are out of state… seek discipleship and counsel from men and women within Grace Community Church. (Eph 5:31)
3. Date within community. Allow the believers God has placed in your life help process through your choices. (Acts 2: 42-47)
4. Look at what God has put in front of you. Are you overlooking good, godly men or women? (Acts 17:26)
5. Only pursue someone who you are attracted to. Spiritually, emotionally, physically, intellectually, socially, etc. (Gen 2:23)
6. Date someone who is your friend. Get to know the person on friendship level before you know them on a romantic level.
7. Don’t have sex… of any form. (1 Cor 6:18)
8. Guys initiate, girls respond. Do not ask her to ask her friend if she likes you.
9. Girls, don’t be easy. Pursue being a Titus 2:5 woman.
10. Girls, don’t buy a “fixer-upper”. You cannot and will not change him. You wont become his girlfriend. You’ll become his mom. Look for a man who is pursuing being a 1 Timothy 3:1-7 man.
11. Going on a date does not mean you are dating. It is OK to go out and talk over coffee!
12. Understand that you may have the gift of singleness for this season of your life. So use your time, energy, and money to further God’s kingdom in the ways hes calling you to right now. (1 Cor 7:7)